This does not mean just because we are used to the heartaches, it no longer hurts. Let us face it, when someone means the world to us and when that relationship fails, it hurts. The truth is, it does not just hurt a little, it hurts a lot! This is not because you are not strong enough to overcome the pain; this is because you have invested so much of yourself into that relationship. Since you have invested so much of your time, your energy and your heart into the other person, having everything suddenly break down does feel like your world is coming to an end. It does not do us any good to live in denial. So admit it. Own it. Tell yourself the truth about the amount of pain you do actually feel inside.
Only from a place of honesty, you can then begin the healing process. The following shows 5 simple strategies to begin the healing process:
1. Staying Healthy
A health body will produce more serotonin. This happy hormone is produced during the day. Low levels of serotonin can cause depression, addiction, irritability, fatigue, and feelings of low self-esteem. So when you are feeling down, instead of grabbing the nearest form of addiction, go out and get some exercise. The best way is to take a walk outside with lots of greens and not a lot of people. This will give you a chance to reconnect to yourself and to nature. Make sure you are committed to staying healthy.
2. Reduce Depression
Melatonin is another happy hormone that is produced at night. In order to reduce the effect of depression naturally, you must get enough rest at night. It does not matter if you are not able to sleep, simply allow yourself to lie down and take inventory of how your body feels is enough. Pay complete attention to each part and send care and appreciation to each part of the body you scan. Notice resentment that might come up, just note it and let it go. By allowing yourself to relax from head to toe while paying tender care to each part of your body, you will find yourself less tense. This simple technique might even put you to sleep.
3. Finding Answers
I'm sure your mind is screaming out "WHY?!" Why did it happen? Why does it hurts so badly? Why it did not work out? It is ok to entertain those thoughts. Grab a pen and a pad of paper and write down anything that comes to your mind. It does not have to be grammatically correct or legible. It is for your outlet only - no one will grade you on it. Whenever you feel the need, write down your thoughts. You will be surprised what you might find. You can also switch to your none dominate hand and write some more. This can be a daily or a weekly process.
4. More Joy Naturally
You can use some simple self-examining questions that will help you release your negative emotions so you can find the joy within again. The simplest way is whenever you notice a negative emotion ask for what the purpose of that emotion is and what it is teaching you. When you embrace the emotion, the learning behind the emotion, that layer of negative emotion will quickly and quietly dissolve. Once that is complete, focus on an ingredient of joy. Such as appreciation, care, peace around the area of your heart. Breathe in appreciation and breathe out love.
5. Greater Self-Confidence
On a daily basis, take care of your material, physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs. It is a balance of all areas of care for yourself that will bring the best result to gain your self-confidence again. You can refer to my ezine article called "5 Tips to Greater Love". These 5 tips are proven ways for many women to boost their self-confidence and feel great again.
Note, your lingering sadness can be a sign of depression. If left untreated, complications will arise. It is entirely up to you to seek help in the forms of prescription medication, extensive therapy, or life skills coaching that can offer faster transformation for some. Whatever you decide is the best for you, make a commitment to reach out.
Flo Li is the founder of Inner Success Blueprint - helping people to release emotional pain after breakups and regain their self-confidence again. For more information and other free resources, please visit http://EndHeartBreak.com
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What I Like About this Article: This article has some very good points on what a woman can do to to start the healing process.
Other helpful links to help you heal your relationship:
Heal Your Relationship | Magic of Making Up
Relationship Central
Magic Relationship Words
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