I ran across this article tonight while doing a little research and just left that I needed to publish it on the blog for my readers. This article deals with the importance of remembering that it does take two people to have a loving and successful relationship. Being the selfish party is only going to chip away what ever is keeping you both together, So start thinking about your spouse or significant other for a change.
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Relationship Help - The Secret to a Loving, Intimate Relationship
By Jo Baker
I was reading in a book the other day, and it said that the majority of relationships fail due to selfishness. Thinking on that for a moment, I realized that the root of all marriage difficulties could be traced back to that one human flaw - thinking of oneself only.
When I was younger, my desire was to be close to my soul-mate, so how did I go about building a loving intimate relationship? Where could I go and what to do to get the relationship help I needed...
Do not get me wrong, you do need to think of yourself in that you have enough resources within you to give to yourself and others, but, you also need to think of others in that same way. As much time and consideration as you give yourself, you also need to give to those around you.
Back to when I was young - in my late teens in fact. I fell head over heels with THE most gorgeous guy... well, we were soul-mates from the get-go! The world was our oyster, time stood still and we had a life of endless possibilities ahead of us. We thought we knew it all and that we had everything... we did not have lots of things, but we had a love that transcended all of that.
There was, however, one fly in the ointment...
My love was as young as I was, and he liked to keep things private... he had left a large family and he could now choose what he shared and with whom, and he relished being able to keep things, thoughts, feelings private.
I also had come from a large family, and my comfort was in sharing things with others. I was very uncomfortable about being on my own, and not knowing what was going on with my mate. All the insecurities of the young was laid on our shoulders, and we could not share our thoughts and feelings with each other - verbally. No problems with the physical communication, but you can not build a relationship on that alone.
Selfishness was at the root of our unenviable situation, and imaginations were let loose.
We could not talk with each other about the things that really mattered to the two of us and as a result we eventually went our separate ways through a crippling amount of pain and heartache. There is a surprise ending to this story... we met again after about 25 years of going our separate ways... still in love, not ever having stopped loving each other, or maybe, loving the idea of being in love with each other.
After living our lives in other relationships that also did not work out, we finally got back together... older, wiser, more prepared to work on our relationship, both realizing commitment, communication and a selflessness toward each other were what would make this new stage of our relationship work.
And it has.
Thirty and a half years after we first met, we were finally married, and now we live comfortably with ourselves and each other, learning each day to build our loving intimate relationship based on caring as much about the other as we do about ourselves.
We share more - verbally, time, and space, and it is good.
Learning how to give into a relationship takes time, effort and know-how. If you are struggling with making your relationship work and need relationship help, or, instead, you have found yourself 'out in the cold' because your love has just left you, you can get help to get back together or put that spark back into your love and grow it again.
All is not lost! You can build the loving intimate relationship you have always dreamed of. While it will take some time, won't it be worth it?
Learn more about the specific timings you need to know about to get back with your ex, or how to make your relationship work better than you ever dreamed possible here - http://myrelationshiphelp.info.... there is nothing like starting right now to get your loving intimate relationship back!
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