He Won't Commit to Me - Understanding Your Guy's Reluctance to Commit

Here is an article by Gillian Reynolds that I thought would help some ok you ladies that are having troubles with your man committing to the relationship.  Read and commit to start a discussion.

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He Won't Commit to Me - Understanding Your Guy's Reluctance to Commit
By Gillian Reynolds

"He won't commit to me and I don't know what to do." That's something that many women say once they've fallen in love with a man. Everything feels wonderful and fulfilling until the two of you have the talk. The talk being the one in which he tells you that he's crazy about you but he's not ready for anything serious. Exactly what should a woman do when this happens to her? Is it best to simply wait until he decides it is the right time or are you better off pushing the issue until he does commit? Although every relationship has its own unique dynamic there are some things that do help when you're faced with this type of emotionally challenging situation.

If you've recently thought or said to yourself, "he won't commit to me," you need to determine why that is. Men are commitment phobic for several reasons. It may be anything from fear of losing his freedom to ongoing tensions between you two. Some men claim they aren't ready to commit because of financial reasons. Give some thought to why you believe he doesn't want to commit. If you pinpoint something in particular, that's what you need to focus on. You need to show him that his reservations are unfounded and that a commitment with you will only enrich his life.

Sometimes, regardless of how hard a woman tries, she can't come up with any logical reason why her guy won't commit. If that's what you're facing, chances are good that you're just with a commitment lazy fellow. These are men who resist commitment because they don't want to put in the effort to maintain a long term relationship. They think that more will be required of them in terms of emotional effort if they agree to a commitment. The way they view it is very simple. They think that since you two are enjoying each other right now and things are going well, why make a change? In other words, your man is getting everything he needs from you so he sees absolutely no reason to put in the extra effort that a commitment involves.

You don't want to get stuck in this situation because it's very difficult to get yourself out of. You love him so you don't want to push him too much for fear of losing him. By the same token you don't want to become someone he takes for granted. The solution is relatively simple. You just need to demonstrate to him that you're not getting the fulfillment you need from the relationship. Express that to him and if you get no response or he makes a weak effort to improve his attitude, make a change. You don't need to end things, but you do need to look out for your emotional health more. Don't invest too much of yourself in a relationship with a man who won't get serious about you.

You don't have to wait for him to decide whether or not he's ready to commit to you. If you are tired of putting your dreams on hold because he's commitment phobic, there are things you can do to make him want to marry you now. Learn right now what you need to do to make him fall to his knees and beg you to marry him.